Most parents find, sooner or later, that disciplining children has lots of big challenges. All kids have moments in which they are difficult to deal with and refuse to cooperate. The way that a parent responds to these situations will have a major impact on how that child develops. You don’t want to either under or overreact to behavior problems. So let’s take a look at some of the major disciplining mistakes that parents need to be watchful of.
Sometimes a simple lie may seem appropriate to get the response you are looking for. Keep in mind that this may not turn out well later on. These white lies are typically told to induce your child with a hint of fear. You may think you have it over on your child, but once they figure you out, they may have trouble trusting you any longer. One instance might be when your child makes a smart face and you tell them their face will freeze like that. As your kids get a little older they will certainly know that this isn’t true. It is best to be frank with your children and tell them like it is rather that have them find out you aren’t sincere. When you lie to your children when they are young; remember that at some point they will know and it will affect their outlook on your word.
In terms of discipline, parents often make the mistake of not doing it enough with their kids. Some parents have too many rules, sure, but others allow an ad hoc chaos in which there aren’t very many rules to follow (if there are any at all). There have to be certain boundaries, especially when it comes to behavior that’s inconsiderate or even dangerous.
Beyond that, kids need structure for their daily lives. Kids who are allowed to sleep, eat, do chores, etc, whenever they feel like it, it will be really difficult for those kids to figure out how to be self-disciplined. Kids feel more secure and organized when there is a set schedule for them to follow. Putting together reasonable rules and boundaries is really important to help them develop into mature adults.
It’s important to remember that each child is an individual. If you want your kids to behave in a certain manner, never compare them to others exemplifying the other child. This is a mistake that many parents make if they have more than one child. By doing this, you are suggesting that the other child (which could be their brother or sister) is better than they are which is not a good thing to do. Do not compare your child with friends or neighbors children either. It has the same effect. No matter what you do, your children will have difficult these in one way or another. When you make comparisons like this, children can’t help but feel resentment toward the other child when you do this. No matter what you do, every child is going to have good and bad points that you have to accept because that is the way they are.
Parents will always have disciplinary problems. It’s just part of what you do. Disciplining your kids is tough and there are many mistakes, as you have just read, that parents can make. You probably have to work on a few of the areas that we have discussed in this article. Just do your best to correct them. As long as you do your discipline the right way, and you are fair, your kids will respond in a positive way almost every time.